How to approach tough problems

First, on paper or in your head, describe the problem situation.

Time to look at just the facts. What are the facts of the situation that no one would argue with? Here, we’re trying to stay away from your interpretation of the problem–or anyone else’s.

Now, on a scale of 0% to 100%, what do you think the probability of the worst case scenario happening is? In other words, what’s the worst thing that could happen and how likely is it to happen?

If the worst case scenario happens, how would you handle it? What are some coping skills that might help? Maybe deep breathing, talking with a trusted adult, practicing mindfulness? If you need help with this piece, reach out to a coach.

Time to think of your goal when it comes to this problem. What needs to change or happen for you to feel OK?

And now it’s time to brainstorm. Think of all the solutions you can. Ask for suggestions from others. At this stage, don’t be critical of any idea. We’re just trying to make a list of a lot of them. Quantity over quality right now.

Choose a solution that you think might work. If you’re not sure, go ahead and pick two or three.

Write out the first step of your solution (or your 2-3 solutions). Which step can you take the soonest? Give it a try. Then do the next step.

After you’ve done all that, it’s worth reflecting on whether it’s working. If it did, find a healthy and fun way to reward yourself. Didn’t work? Reward yourself for trying! And then try one of your other solutions.

The fact that you are here, thinking through the steps of your problem is so impressive. YOU are impressive. Your world is full of big problems. But we know that you have what it takes to keep pushing through them. You’re not alone. We can help.

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How to approach tough problems

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